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Wednesday, December 31, 2003
attachment, separation and loss
or: I've grown accustomed to your face...

The following is a review of Attachment Theory and Psychoanalysis that I just posted to its Amazon page. The review won't come up for a few days, but you might want to go there for context. I've added links here, though they won't show up in the review itself.

btw, attachment theory is indeed related to the various parenting books by William and Martha Sears. See, for instance...

Secure Attachments - A list for new parents
by milkmonkey, MSW and new mama
However, even if you're not a lactating mom (hi, Denise!), don't let that stop you from reading the rest of this. Attachment theory has implications that go way beyond parenting, though yeah, it does begin there. As do we all.

The previous reviewer says: 'Scholars who have read Fonagy's chapter in "The Handbook of Attachment" will recognize this material (read: the book is a bound version of the chapter.)'

This is not correct. While there may be considerable overlap in some sections, the chapter in the Handbook is some 30 pages, while the book contains over 250. The chapter ends with Daniel Stern, while this book (as you can see by looking in the table of contents) continues beyond Stern. I am particularly interested to note that Fonagy's book (but not his chapter for the Handbook) covers Stephen A. Mitchell, who was a truly great mind with a deeply compassionate heart. I highly recommend any and all of his books, but be careful: Amazon's search engine does not distinguish between "Stephen A. Mitchell" (the noted psychoanalyst) and "Stephen Mitchell" (the New Age mystic wannabe). Jeff Bezos, are you listening?

At any rate [thanks to certain kind bloggers' generous donations], I bought The Handbook of Attachment based on the mistaken information in the review directly below. I'm not sorry I did; it's excellent -- and MASSIVE at over 900 pages. Great stuff. Now I've also ordered Fonagy's Attachment Theory and Psychoanalysis and expect it to be five-stars-plus based on the *shorter* version in the Handbook. If you can't afford to buy both, don't be misled by the previous reviewer's misunderstanding. If money is no object (relation; heh), then get your hands on both. Attachment theory is finally becoming widely recognized and applauded, even by the psychoanalytic community, which gave Bowlby (the original theorist) and his collaborators so much grief for decades. This field contains a hugely important body of work that provides not only new insights into human relationships across the life cycle (i.e., it no longer applies only to infants and their primary caregivers) but opens up whole new perspectives. For instance, I am quite interested in how greater awareness of "avoidant" and "ambivalent" attachment styles can deepen and ventilate -- the atmosphere having become deadly oppressive -- more traditional psychoanalytic views of narcissistic and so-called borderline personality disorders. Bowbly himself was convinced that avoidant attachment was related to the development of narcissism, and Fonagy drops further fascinating hints along these lines (though, as far as I know, the ambivalent/borderline connection is my own hypothetical surmise). A la Richard Nixon, let me just say this about that...

Attachment: don't leave your base without it. Otherwise, all your base are belong to THEM!

also recommended (in part to explain my lame pun, above, but also because it's superb) is John Bowlby's book, A Secure Base, as well as his three seminal volumes on Attachment, Separation, and Loss. I'll add these various other works on attachment theory to the recommendations section on this page so you won't have to hunt them down via the aforementioned [koff-koff] search engine.

Christopher Locke, co-author of The Cluetrain Manifesto, and author of Gonzo Marketing and The Bombast Transcripts, none of which are related to the present topic... Hmmmm, or are they?

5:51 PM | link |

Monday, December 29, 2003
part II in a series

I ain't the doctor and I ain't the doctor's son
no I ain't the doctor and I ain't the doctor's son
but I can make you open wide until the doctor comes...

shocking, isn't it? but I understand these things do actually happen!
and if Amerika weren't so fucked up on the pornography outlined
in the previous post, it wouldn't be such a shameful fucking crime.

I've taken a few liberties with the lyrics above,
but then, who hasn't? for a good time, click here
to find out more than you want to know. trust me.
and here's the source of the hesitation grafik.

btw, despite Kurt Vonnegut's best efforts to popularize
"wide open beaver," searching google images for that phrase
netted not much more than this curious page. you must study it
a bit to fully understand why this is even worth mentioning, ay.
What the hell. Since I brought him up, here's Kurt Vonnegut Jr. on WOB from his truly terrifying book, Breakfast of Champions...
"A wide-open beaver was a photograph of a woman not wearing underpants, and with her legs far apart, so that the mouth of her vagina could be seen. The expression was first used by news photographers, who often got to see up women�s skirts at accidents and sporting events and from underneath fire escapes and so on. They needed a code word to yell to other newsmen and friendly policemen and firemen and so on, to let them know what could be seen, in case they wanted to see it. The word was this: 'Beaver!'

. . .

When Dwayne was a boy, when Kilgore Trout was a boy, when I was a boy, and even when we became middle-aged men and older, it was the duty of the police and the courts to keep representations of such ordinary apertures from being examined and discussed by persons not engaged in the practice of medicine. It was somehow decided that wide-open beavers, which were ten thousand times as common as real beavers, should be the most massively defended secret under law. So there was a madness about wide-open beavers. There was also a madness about a soft, weak metal, an element, which had somehow been declared the most desirable of all elements, which was gold."

now tell me how long
do I have to wait?
can I get you now
or must I hesitate?

11:09 PM | link |

Doctoring the truth
you've come a long way, baby

The following is from "The Me Decade and the Third Great Awakening" by Tom Wolfe. Originally published in 1973, the article is reprinted in Mauve Gloves & Madmen, Clutter & Vine.
"And what will the Real Me be like? It is at this point that the new movements tend to take on a religious or spiritual atmosphere. In one form or another they arrive at an axiom first propounded by the Gnostic Christians some eighteen hundred years ago: namely, that at the apex of every human soul there exists a spark of the light of God. In most mortals, that spark is "asleep" (the Gnostics' word), all but smothered by the facades and general falseness of society. But those souls who are clear can find that spark within themselves and unite their souls with God's. And with that conviction comes the second assumption: there is an other order that actually reigns supreme in the world. Like the light of God itself, this other order is invisible to most mortals. But [those who have] dug out from under the junk heap of civilization can discover it.

And with that . . . the Me movements were about to turn righteous."

And this one is from The Emerging Self: A Developmental Self & Object Relations Approach to the
Treatment of the Closet Narcissistic Disorder of the Self, by James F. Masterson, M.D.
"...grandiose and special... feelings of superiority, uniqueness, and well-being based on... narcissistically manipulating other people to obtain their approval, devaluing them, and using them solely for this narcissistic purpose, and also being able to act without sexual feeling, that is, to use sex as a manipulation for her narcissistic needs."
Just two questions, then, baby. First...
And second...


terms courtesy Webster's Third New International Dictionary. help yourself.

7:43 PM | link |

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28 October 2004

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